My oldest sons ex wife was like that I am so glad she is gone and that they didn’t have any kids. I can only say I will say a prayer terrible place to be in

I just want my family to end the drama...and move on. Holidays are tough. We cannot control a crazy person..so why try. Move on.

Man that is tough. Blended families, divorce, custody battles, all that stuff that gets kids in the middle of pissin matches is so very sad.

Do what is best for the kids is all I got. Most families and since most of us have families has some kids they love getting pissed on by some selfish adult.

i just cant imagine , I married into a great family and my parents adore my wife

That's why I like to be the crazy one.

No DILs, just SILS they are pretty good guys. But I had a sister in law that was a nut case. She had a PHD in psychology which was appropriate. We call her psychobit**. She was terrible to our parents & caused a lot of heartache. Brother finally had enough & dumped her, but she alienated their daughter against him & he has had contact with her in years. Family discord is tough.

My family, albeit small, is/was highly dysfunctional. Holidays just became way too much to deal with, especially considering the distance we had to travel. Brother divorced twice and always drunk, sister just got divorced from the dweeb she’s been married to for 30+ years, I like being with my immediate family (kids/wife) in my own home for the holidays

I will second this. We have 4 daughters and there have been some really trying times. And cease fire is a very appropriate word to describe it. Thankfully the cease fire is holding up.

df, , this is a simple example of what we are dealing with:

A year ago, Sis was at charity auction. There was a beginner bike, with training wheels that was not being bid on. So, sis bought it. She told her son that she had gotten a bike for the youngest one. Nothing was said. He failed to tell his wife(insane person) about the bike.

Crazy DIL came unglued. Screaming..I am the mom....I get her her first bike. Heck...Sis didn’t care...they could have given the little one the bike. No one was trying to unsurp her position. That began the family cannot see the girls year.

Just tell the crazy lady how much money you have and you are prepared to cut them totally out of your will if they don’t start acting like family instead of the BS.

That message was conveyed months ago.

I told my nephew that if you cannot treat us like family...you will not be treated like family.

You can't fix crazy.

That’s what I keep telling my sister. DILs minister asked sis to write a letter of apology to crazy DIL.

I told her not to do it...she will just file it away then use it against her if it comes to litigation.

I too have a great DIL who is raising 3 of my grandkids and doing a fine job.

This, and you can’t make mommy a good mother