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 Right or Wrong
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10/18/17 02:11 PM
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DavidWhatley
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My 32 yr old son has a drug and ex wife problem. He spent 2 months in jail this summer for criminal trespass for going to her apartment at her invitation. But, it was still illegal so he goes to jail.
He got out Friday, spent the night with her, got high Saturday, stayed with a friend Sat night, slept in his car Sunday night, and came to my house Monday.
He's broke, homeless and jobless.
Told him he can stay with me, I will help him get a job, but he CAN NOT, go to her house. You guessed it, he went over again last night. So I told home to pack his stuff and get out.
Did I have any other options?
"Every man must live with the man that he makes of himself, and the better job he does at molding his character and improving his mind, the better company he will have."
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:16 PM
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swalker9513
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Sorry to hear this. No advice, just sympathy.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:18 PM
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UGLYSHCTICK
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If you help someone who is helping themselves it's help. If you help someone who is not helping themselves you're enabling them.
I'm on the brink of doing the same thing with my 27 year old son who can't stay sober. My wife and granddaughter is the only thing holding me back.
stand your ground.
I'll be praying for you brother.
Last edited by UGLYSHCTICK; 10/18/17 02:19 PM.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:18 PM
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fouzman
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32 years old? I think you did the right thing, and I'm very sorry for you and your son.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:18 PM
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BlueNitro
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Sorry about you troubles. Would it help you if you posted pictures of beautiful women in bikinis on some kind of forum?
All kidding aside, I think you did what you had to do. It's tough but sounds like he needs to hit rock bottom before any help offered will do any good.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:20 PM
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Nickbyrd
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My 32 yr old son has a drug and ex wife problem. He spent 2 months in jail this summer for criminal trespass for going to her apartment at her invitation. But, it was still illegal so he goes to jail.
He got out Friday, spent the night with her, got high Saturday, stayed with a friend Sat night, slept in his car Sunday night, and came to my house Monday.
He's broke, homeless and jobless.
Told him he can stay with me, I will help him get a job, but he CAN NOT, go to her house. You guessed it, he went over again last night. So I told home to pack his stuff and get out.
Did I have any other options? Dw this scenario hits extremely close to home . You did the right thing. You did not have any other options . If you continue to let this happen and not stand your ground you will be walked on and thus become an enabler which does way more harm than good . I know you have feelings of guilt and other mixed emotions about the situation . I feel for you brother and wish you the best of luck in continuing to fight the good fight .
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:20 PM
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HasBen
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If he was 22,I might be a little more tolerant. Not much, but a little. At 32,he is on his own. Based on the facts presented, you handled it the way I would.
“ When you're racing, it's life. Anything that happens before or after is just waiting.”. Steve McQueen
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:21 PM
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David Welcher
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It's called tough love!
Your doing the right thing.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: fouzman]
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10/18/17 02:22 PM
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Bigbob_FTW
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32 years old? I think you did the right thing, and I'm very sorry for you and your son. this. he's a man and you can't enable him. Love him but set your boundaries.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:23 PM
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That is a tough situation and I feel for you as a parent. I think you did the right thing he has to learn there are consequences to his bad decisions. The drugs are a powerful influence and so is the ex-wife. Best of luck to you, stand your ground.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:23 PM
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Indianation65
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Sorry for what you and your family are going through, and actually, "he" had the options and keeps making the wrong choices. Severe addictions hurt loved ones more than they hurt the addict, or at least it would seem.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:24 PM
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DI
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Getting high on weed, or harder stuff?
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:26 PM
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bogey♂
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I hope that he finds his way, it takes some of us guys a little longer, but you did the right thing. Prayers sent.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:28 PM
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Cast
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This is NOT your fault David. The boy chose his path and it's his responsibility to change his path. I kicked my boy out twice at 18 (when he knew everything) and he is much wiser now at 32. We're good friends now, I pray your boy makes it through this.
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Re: Right or Wrong
[Re: DavidWhatley]
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10/18/17 02:29 PM
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DillonCan'tFish
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My family went through a similar situation with my sister. It sounds like you did the right thing. Stand your ground and refuse to allow him to break the rules you set in your household but, be there when he is ready to change for himself. My parents weren't there for my sister when she decided to grow up and if my siblings and I hadn't stepped up, I feel she would have turned right back to the only lifestyle she knew.
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