Just received a text from one of my sons. He's going to ask his wife for a divorce. Ever since his stroke their life changed. We thought them moving away and slowing down would be good for them but it was just a band-aid. He started drinking again and had a wreck but wasn't "caught" by the police. It just damaged his truck a little.

She was a principal at a local HS here in the DFW area and probably on her way to the school board etc.. She and her family are all over-achievers and all of her family have multiple degrees while my son was voted class clown and just managed tire stores. She decided to go back to just being a teacher but think it's killing her not to push for more and blames my son for having the stroke and ruining their future plans.

Told him I will support him in whatever he chooses but getting a divorce won't make his life easier just different.


Please I beg you all to say a few prayers for them all.

Divorce is not easy or cheap by any means. It is horrible. Prayers to the young man.

I hope you all find peace-

Sometimes life is hard and as much as we would like to protect our loved ones from pain, it is a necessity sometimes -

Sorry man-

The only person that can make you happy, is yourself. No one has that power over you.

Rock bottom is a cold place to be. Been there and got the scars.


All you can do is offer an ear to listen. Friendship. But it's up to him. Mistake or not it's his life.

Prayers for your family. Encourage your son to get help. Alcohol has been the route of many similar situations.

Prayers sent

My son went thru a divorce in 2011 while he was deployed overseas with the USMC. One of the hardest things I ever had to sit and watch him go through, from thousands of miles away no less. Wouldn’t wish that on any father.

Im sorry to hear that buddy,

Call him or even better go see him. That text is probably a cry for help and quite honestly the subject matter warrant at least talking to one another preferably in person.

Go see him. Get him some help or at least pointed in the right direction to get some help. It's probably a g9od chance that he's lost in his own head right now.

Prayers for your family

I agree with Mark Perry. Get on the road right now and go see him. Marriage is hard, divorce is hard. Pick your hard. As someone who recently divorced, and at the end I'm the one who pushed for it, I 10/10 don't recommend. It was necessary in my case, but it was the worst experience of my life. Especially if they have kids. People think the kids will be just fine. That's BS, it scars them for life.

Here's the scenarios where I think divorce is probably the right path:

1. The parties have been in marriage counseling for years and no progress is being made.
2. One party has an addiction they are refusing to address, even after an intervention.
3. The home is so toxic the children would be better off in separate stable calm homes.
4. Infidelity.
5. Physical abuse either direction.

Outside of these things, I'd really push your son to tap on the breaks, work on his drinking problem, and to seek wise counsel from a trusted individual.

1. After reading your story, I don't blame her for "wanting more again, wanting a better life."
2. Blessings to your son for going through difficulties.
3. Prayers

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I 100% agree with Mark and Purdue. The drinking is only a symptom of something much deeper that he hasn't come to terms with. Sounds like he needs the help of a good psychologist to get into the depths and eddies of his mind, to get stuff worked out. Been there and highly recommend it. A great place to start is BetterHelp.com I have not used them personally, but keep hearing great things about them.

Tough deal BassFever. for the best outcome.

Divorce affects the whole family. Not just the house it occurs in. Prayers to you and yours.

Sometimes the people in our lives either help to push us to the top and sometimes they pull us to the bottom. Either you have to fix the relationship or move along.


Prayers they find peace in whichever path they chose.

Also prayers to your son to help him fight off his demons.