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Almost two weeks into a huge life change
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10/16/19 03:22 PM
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Uncle Zeek
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On October 3rd, the redhead and I got new additions to our household. We took in a brother & sister, ages 13 & 6, on a "legal risk" foster placement. "Legal risk" means that CPS is actively trying to terminate the biological parents rights so that the kids can be adopted. It also means that we can't publicly post photos or names of the kids until the adoption is final. I've seen more of the CPS system than I ever really cared to see, and have seen many problems within that agency. Some of the problems are, in my opinion, self-perpetuating. Some of the problems come from being so overly cautious that caseworkers would rather leaves kids in a group home setting rather than place them with adoptive parents. And the overly cautious comes from some of the horror stories that are the reason CPS exists in the first place. Have seen examples of CPS workers who are themselves child predators (there was a CPS employee in Ft Worth convicted within the last couple of years on this). Have also read through case files on children who have experienced things that no human being should have to endure. Despite all this, I've also seen some very dedicated CPS workers who go above and beyond the call of duty because truly do care about the kids in their charge. In the meantime, these two particular kids now have a safe home, albeit one with rules that they're getting used to. They're going to have a solid foundation for a good life, and have an education far above & beyond what is available through public schools. I foresee a lot of fishing in years to come. My neighbor has already offered to take me and the boy ... no, wait - my SON!! - out fishing on his boat anytime we want to go. If y'all happen to see me in public, you'll know it's me cause you'll hear me saying "we're not buying that" over and over and over and over ... we've already gotten used to saying "no" to lots of things on a very regular basis.
"Decency is not news; it is buried in the obituaries --but it is a force stronger than crime" ~ Robert A. Heinlein Artim Law Firm, PLLC Estate planning & tax attorney 2250 Morriss Road, Suite 205, Flower Mound, Texas 75028 972-746-0758 mobile zac@artimlegal.com
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313461
10/16/19 03:27 PM
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banker-always fishing
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You are a very good person for doing this! God bless you,your wife,and the two children you took in. I will also pray for the parents of those two children. Great post and thanks for sharing.
IGFA World Record Rio Grande Cichlid. Lake Dunlap. John 3:16 Sinner's Prayer. God forgive me a sinner. I accept Jesus Christ as my Savior !
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: banker-always fishing]
#13313463
10/16/19 03:28 PM
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Joined: Sep 2005
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Uncle Zeek
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God bless you,your wife,and the two children you took in. We're actually planning a wedding for next spring ... I'm trying to talk her into May 4th so it can be Star Wars themed ...
Last edited by Uncle Zeek; 10/16/19 03:29 PM.
"Decency is not news; it is buried in the obituaries --but it is a force stronger than crime" ~ Robert A. Heinlein Artim Law Firm, PLLC Estate planning & tax attorney 2250 Morriss Road, Suite 205, Flower Mound, Texas 75028 972-746-0758 mobile zac@artimlegal.com
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313465
10/16/19 03:30 PM
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banker-always fishing
Pumpkin Head
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God bless you,your wife,and the two children you took in. We're actually planning a wedding for next spring ... I'm trying to talk her into May 4th so it can be Star Wars themed ... You have a great future bride!
IGFA World Record Rio Grande Cichlid. Lake Dunlap. John 3:16 Sinner's Prayer. God forgive me a sinner. I accept Jesus Christ as my Savior !
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313473
10/16/19 03:37 PM
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Jimbo
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This is what life is all about! There are changes always around the corner and love wins out! Congratulations on your new family, and may you have many years of happiness for you all!
Just one more cast!
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313476
10/16/19 03:41 PM
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tricky
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WOW...Makes my heart warm.
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313477
10/16/19 03:43 PM
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Jpurdue
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Best of luck good sir. I hope your story has one heck of a happy ending for all involved!
"Bragging may not bring happiness, but no man having caught a large fish goes home through an alley." -A.L. www.LunkerLore.com
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313480
10/16/19 03:51 PM
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deucer02
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May God Bless you and your family.
Biden famously said in the New York Observer, “I mean, you got the first mainstream African-American who is articulate and bright and clean and a nice-looking guy. I mean, that’s a storybook, man.â€
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313484
10/16/19 03:53 PM
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DanDaBald
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Congratulations to you both on the newest additions. Danged glasses, just fogged up some.........
NEVER FORGET 9/11/2001
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313490
10/16/19 03:55 PM
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WAWI
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Good on you Sir. When you want to bring him to squaw let me know and we will beat on some fish. I like to hear things like this.
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313492
10/16/19 03:58 PM
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Brent S
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313508
10/16/19 04:10 PM
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CaptainCrunch
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Great work! God Bless You.
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Jimbo]
#13313511
10/16/19 04:14 PM
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CCTX
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This is what life is all about! There are changes always around the corner and love wins out! Congratulations on your new family, and may you have many years of happiness for you all!
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313514
10/16/19 04:16 PM
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96speed
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Good luck on this journey. I've watched enough Long Lost Family to have a deep appreciation for adoptive parents.
A few questions I am curious about: If you have not had a wedding, is it safe to assume you are not legally married? My wife and I looked into adoption briefly at one point. I got the feeling that not being legally married put you way down on the "list" to adopt. How did that impact your situation?
How long had you been looking into this? How long from the time you got "the call" to pick up or fostering?
Female drivers = No survivors
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Re: Almost two weeks into a huge life change
[Re: Uncle Zeek]
#13313515
10/16/19 04:16 PM
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John175☮
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“Do not pray for easier lives. Pray to be stronger men.†-JFK
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