It is not uncommon for accusations to go unknown for years after the event until someone else makes a claim or in this case a book.

Lolz

Is it common for a person who was raped to continue to seek out their rapist for further sexual relations and romantic involvement for many months after the fact?

I don't know what happened in the room. I haven't followed the story very closely. If the woman was actually raped, that's horrible. It's mighty tough for me to reconcile her behavior though. I wish adults could be adults and report things when they happen. This whole waiting 5 years and then claiming, "he was Dracula and had control of my mind" thing is hogwash in my opinion.

She was interviewed for the book, which is about the Harvey Weinstein saga, but also includes fallout from that due to the #metoo movement, including the Matt Lauer deal.

https://variety.com/2019/tv/news/matt-lauer-rape-nbc-ronan-farrow-book-catch-kill-1203364485/

I’m not defending her or sticking up for her or anything, but she claims it was a decision made because of his control and power at her company. I would say it’s not uncommon for battered women to stay in abusive relationships, and I’m sure she wouldn’t be the first to stay continue to have a relationship with the man she says raped her, just like all of the women Weinstein and Cosby are alleged to have assaulted or raped didn’t go to police immediately because of the power they wielded.

I agree with you that waiting or continuing to associate or even stay in a relationship with someone who is abusing them is hard to reconcile, but I’ve never been raped.

https://variety.com/2019/tv/news/matt-lauer-rape-denial-letter-1203364695/

That link and the one I posted above details the book, her allegations and his response.

It does take out some of that "humanness". But you have to be careful and even a hint of impropriety can cost your job. I have seen it many times. Even when it was very much consensual and there was not a direct reporting relationship I have seen managers terminated.

HR says stuff like, it cannot truly be consensual because you are (fill in a title, VP, SVP whatever) and she is an admin. or customer service rep etc. So she felt pressure just based on your position...if she knew it or not. So yeah.... with logic like that being preached, I dont hug, I don't stare or leer.

I do not have serious performance conversations (written warnings, final warnings, terminations) without another female member of management in the room. At the bank I worked with a guy, another manager, who had a female in an office and was putting her on a final warning. She later claimed he said for oral sex he would rip up the warning and it never happened... otherwise she would likely lose her job. Thats what she said. He swears she made that 100% up. I was not, and still am not sure who was telling the truth but he was fired the next day. Just on her word vs. his.

I can tell half a dozen stories just like that... and in each the man is fired. Even if seemed to be a 50/50 thing. They just wont take the risk of keeping the male manager on. At least at the bank it was like that. The new company is much more lax but still... rubber hit the road the outcome would be the same I am sure.

Wont find old Dan in that situation. And Matt [censored] Lauer, the goofball sleaze should have better known better. I dont know if this new allegation is true or what. But he did plenty he admitted to so f him.

I can't stand the guy, but her initial encounter has some holes in it. She said she went back to his hotel room a second time and while discussing anal, and when she was about to tell him she was a no go, he slipped it in. Then she continued to see him for more. Something doesn't add up here. Why were her drawers off so he could continue as she said he did? I would imagine someone who was raped would not go back for more, maybe it is me.

Davedave wants to know what you are doing for lunch.

now there's someone you can't trust.

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I’ve had lunch with Davedave and was unharmed. He even bought me lunch. What’s wrong with me?

Unlike Lauer he used lube?

Lauer is a complete 2 faced POS. About 2 weeks before it came out on him, he grilled Bill O’Reilly about sexual harrasment and treated him like scum of the earth.

Davedave needs to conserve his energy, aren't you two fishing for like 1.9 million bucks this weekend? Good luck out there!

Wait, what? I figured he'd be a pencil.