My dad has Alzheimers. The forthcoming stage is taking away the keys. This is a very stubborn man who
has fought me every step of every way with trying to care for him (his finances, etc).
Who was once the most gracious and loving dad is now screaming in my face that he wants more money - EVERYDAY.
His rationing & reasoning is gone. If he spends $10K and made $9K in the markets over 2 months, he truly believes he has only spend $1K in those months.
It is the disease. I know.

Can you all that care to do so share your experience with taking away the keys?
Much appreciated.

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My mother pulled out in front of a car and got t-boned, she was injured and so was the poor guy that hit her, she was around 78-79, she took her own keys away. It’s a tough thing

take the whole vehicle, not gonna be easy but if it is that time then just do it and realize he is not aware of what is actually happening or what he is saying.

jmo

Sorry VIP, my dad was the same just before he passed. He even bought a brand new car but never really drove it. He just seemed to lose the urge/reason to drive. Now my mom is just like you described. She had a massive stroke and wasn’t expected to live. She is now in a full time care facility but is like you described. She gets very angry easy and always seems worried about money. One second she wants to give it all away and the next she is accusing people of stealing it from her. I know what I wrote doesn’t offer much help, but I just wanted to remind you how you have to be very patient with them.

Granddad got a ticket for doing 7 mph on the mixmaster in downtown Fort Worth. We had to take them after that.
He cussed the cop out because he wasn’t speeding!

Went through this with my uncle. His condition will only get worse so it sounds like you need to take control of the keys and the finances immediately before some POS comes along via phone or email and takes his money. It will be hard for you, but remember that he would want you to take charge of the situation if he was in his right mind. He is no longer the man you once knew and now needs your leadership.

My Mother’s Doctor told her and when she got back it was gone. Wasn't to bad with the Dr. Being the bad guy, but like Hop said it needs to be gone not just the keys.
Good luck and remember it's the disease you are dealing with not your Dad.

My dad had Alzheimers,hardest thing I have done in my life was taking his keys. But it was time when he got lost less than a mile from their house.

Mom couldn't find the brake and drove the van under the teller window at a bank in corsicana. On a lighter note newspaper reported an employee had to be taken to the hospital for emotional distress.

Make the car disappear if you have the power of attorney, out of sight out of mind

Catch him early in the morning when he’s well rested. Discuss it then. Late afternoon/evening the disease is in full effect and you’ll fight a losing battle.
If that fails disable the car.

Sorry to hear about your dad.

We had to do with my dad about a year ago which was several months after my mom passed.

You said something about taking care of the finances.

Do you have Power of Attorney over his finances, medical, etc.?

If not that should be done immediately and in his state it will probably take the Doctors involvement to accomplish.

We talked with a lawyer and he gave us expert advice on all of it including putting his house in a Lady Bird Deed so they state can't take it.

It is a terrible condition that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

If I can be of any help just let me know.

I was very lucky. Mom gave me her keys and pistols the day I moved back from Florida. We had never talked about it and she never asked to have them back.

This is the truth in my experience with my dad. He was a morning person all his life as am I. Even after alzheimer he would have good mornings
of rational but the evenings not so good. Excess group of people and noise in the evenings was even more so bad.
Agree on getting his vehicle out of site to never be seen again makes a huge difference.

Prayers up for you and your dad and family.




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Dad and I have talked for a few months about this very issue. He’ll be tossing me the keys very soon
due to macular degeneration , not cognitive impairment. He’s 92 and very independent. My 2 older
brothers agree with me. It’s still tough to make that decision. Prayers up for you and your family.
Also better to get it done before APS & DPS gets involved.