It's sucked, my worst one yet and it's not getting any better. My wife and kids seem happy, and I am happy for that. My mom had me when she was 16 so my grandpa stepped in and really helped raise me. We are so close this has been diffucult. At 83 he's loosing his mind at a rapid pace. Sucks. I've had a loss of income also. I've had stomach issues and don't get much relief. Cherry on top I have had a lot of mental issues lately that haunt my thoughts, all of them. Yesterday I took my son to his dr. They directed me to the ER because they thought it was his appendix. Turns out it was a stomach virus. Im cash pay, so Im sure I will be getting another 6-7k bill in the mail pretty soon. I have a spot on my back about 3in around. Been there for 2 years, probably skin cancer, at least that's what it looks like to me. So yeah, 2023 won't be missed.

The good news is my health is great and I made 2-3X what I normally make in a year. The bad news is I'm in the middle of an expensive, senseless, and unexpected divorce. Tough to even type those words out. Sad times to be honest. Tough on my kids. Tough on me. I'll go with the worst year ever option.

I don't think it's intentional false advertising. Early on in a new relationship the woman really does have a higher drive. The phenomenon is called limerance. Whether she likes it or not though, internal wiring for women tappers libido down over time. As I mentioned after 24 months, they may have no spontaneous desire at all. This is particularly true after kids. The really strange thing is that the same woman with zero spontaneous desire for her husband could have enormous desire for another man. Limerance restarts her drive. How many times have you seen this with recently divorced women who wouldn't touch their husbands but after the divorce wind up jumping on every cowboy they can find. Once she starts another long-term relationship again though the clock starts and she's got 24 months before shes back in the low drive state again.

So if you are a man who wants a woman with as high a desire as you have, you either have to find a unicorn or switch women every 24 months. You'll live your whole life in limerance, but you'll also miss out on getting to know someone at a really deep level and if you have any kids you'll be constantly jerking them around. Plus you'll probably die alone.

Anyway, a better approach in my mind is to be aware the phenomena exists and to put in the work necessary to keep your marriage as healthy as possible. How do you do that?

1. Get your butt to the gym and stay in shape. Keep your hygiene up to.
2. Get out of the house. A little absence makes the heart grow fonder.
3. Set a solid positive tone in your marriage. Be a leader, and don't be a Eyore who says no to everything.
4. Be interesting. Have some fun hobbies. Be the man your wife proudly points out at a party and says that guy, he's my husband. Nobody wants to be married to an uninteresting couch potato.
5. Get your wife away from the dang kids from time to time. Date nights/vacations etc...
6. Don't watch too much porn.
7. Don't let your wife get bored.

If you try and that and your wife still doesn't want to touch you with a ten-foot pole, encourage her to get her hormones checked by an actual hormone specialist. Your regular doctor is going to say she's fine because her numbers will be in the "normal" range for our overweight wildly unhealthy population here in the US.

That's all the unsolicited marriage advice I've got for today.

The good news is my health is great and I made 2-3X what I normally make in a year. The bad news is I'm in the middle of an expensive, senseless, and unexpected divorce. Tough to even type those words out. Sad times to be honest. Tough on my kids. Tough on me. I'll go with the worst year ever option.

The good news is my health is great and I made 2-3X what I normally make in a year. The bad news is I'm in the middle of an expensive, senseless, and unexpected divorce. Tough to even type those words out. Sad times to be honest. Tough on my kids. Tough on me. I'll go with the worst year ever option.

Just relax go to work go home and drink more beer repeat . It’s all good