I don't have kids however, I have an adult step son and I have no idea if he is in his daughter's life or not. When the granddaughter was young my wife always made sure that he had a place for his weekends and made sure that his daughter was always here. Those were some great times but, he started doing his own things and momma didn't like it that the daughter was here and he wasn't so everything stopped. Now that the wife has Alzheimer's it would be great to see the grandaughter which it has been almost nine months. I just don't have time to do it all and it makes me sad.

For Y'all that make it work thank you for putting the kids first. I think everyone wins when this happens.

Ignorant? Easy big guy, you�re always a little arrogant that�s easy to see in your posts. You asked what we do and how we handle it. I told ya what I do.....you don�t have to like it....

Your comment is filled with several ignorant assumptions. I call it like I see it. You don't have to like it.....

Never had to go down that route of the big D.....but, my parents divorced when I was 12. I can say that my father, as hard of man as he's been all of his life to me, he never, ever missed any child support payments and always was there for us with any type of support, financially. I respect him for that. He's currently in the hospital here in Tulsa, and that's one reason why I keep feeding him every day.

Sorry about your dad sir.

It's always weird to me when people get a long super well after a divorce. I'm left wondering if both parties are so reasonable why couldn't they just work it out in the marriage?

We get along well in terms of taking care of the kids. The rest is a no go.

Some people may not believe this.....but there's more to a marriage than just kids.

Because in some marriages women use the kids as a reason not to get divorced this is while there doing what ever they can to make things miserable for you. I get along with her for our kids sake but soon as she slips up I will pounce on her to get full custody from her and there will be no limits to what I will say. If I had been as ugly as her in the divorce I would have custody. But since it was my first divorce her 3rd knowledge is king. Well I�ve had the hard education. Things will be different next to around

Yep, the ex and I were miserable, we put on the happy face and acted like everything was fine for the sake of the kids, that charade lasted about 6 months until we realized that was no way to live, there's a lot more to marriage than just kids

So sorry to hear that brother. Which hospital? What do you need? I think you have my phone number but I'll send it again. If you're staying in a motel you don't have to, I have extra bedrooms 20 minutes from any hospital in Tulsa and a truck you can drive.

Speaking as a little league coach, take your kid to the practice/game if it falls on your day.

This year I have one set of divorced parents who get along better than any divorced couple I've ever seen...they were even in each others weddings.

Never been divorced and don't want to be.

In my experience from the people I know it is a completely different ball game when mommy and daddy kinda get along from when momma wants to be a pain in the arse. Lots of guys don't have a choice about paying child support and then end up paying for everything else on top of it because momma doesn't spend the money on the kids anyway. I got no problem at all paying for what my kids need but child support isn't always a choice and from what I have seen is very commonly abused.

Say what?

Daughter was 17 and less than a year from getting out of high school. We had split custody. Only issue was claiming her as a dependent.