I feel so dirty. He's so excited for me to meet them and I feel like I'm going to the chair. I guess taking someone else's spawn ice skating is just slightly better than having to actually give birth to them myself.

You don't just marry the guy, you marry the family. It's a package deal. All or nothing.

That's what I'm worried about. I've already told him that if his ex becomes a problem or his kids are a pain that I'm out. It's a shame cuz I really like this guy. Oh well. If it works out, it works out. If not, I was happy enuf being single.

You obviously don't want to be with someone else's kids so why are you Wasting this guys time, and yours? If they happen to be perfect than - cool, I'll let this work but if something is wrong with them (I assure you everyone will find something wrong with someone else's kids every time) then it's a no go?

Would he feel good about this thread you posted? Would you show it to him?

I say all this because your bringing yourself into children's lives. Pretty important step and it doesn't sound like your at all ready.

Sorry - not trying to be insulting but your the adult - they are children. Either have a positive attitude going into this or leave them all alone.

"But I like this guy". Like another post said, this isn't about you anymore once kids get involved. You either want the whole family thing or you want the guy but not his baggage. One of those......you don't get without the other!

That's what I'm worried about. I've already told him that if his ex becomes a problem or his kids are a pain that I'm out. It's a shame cuz I really like this guy. Oh well. If it works out, it works out. If not, I was happy enuf being single.