i found a round to flat plug at autozone. has both 4 flat and 5 flat. you need 5 flat, because one wire goes the reverse to unlock the solenoid when backing.
I have a round to flat 5 already and it doesn't work. I am thinking that that portion of the plug isn't wired for power. I am thinking about just adding a jumper from my back up lights on the truck down to the plug. That way it will supply power to when I am in reverse.